- Be prepared.
Just like the Scout motto, you should always be prepared. If you want to get phone numbers, then you need to have a way of remembering them.
You can carry a pen and paper with you, or you may choose to enter numbers directly in your cell phone or Palm Pilot. Either way, you should always have something with you. Since most people have cell phones nowadays, I would recommend that you use your cell phone.
However, if you do carry a pen and paper, think of getting something classy that women will remark on. If you carry a broken stub and a piece of paper that’s been scribbled on and folded up, you’ll give her the impression that you’re a slob. A pocket notebook in a single, bold color (avoid any cover with an image, like those with cars or sexy women on them) is good. An expensive pen will also impress her.
Make sure that you are always open to opportunities to ask a girl for her number. You may miss these opportunities if you are not prepared and paying attention. A lot of guys spend a whole evening talking to a woman in a bar, then when she excuses herself to go to the bathroom, they never see her again. Get her number before she leaves. It sounds simple, but a lot of guys forget.
- Just do it.
Don’t be embarrassed if you’re nervous. We’ve all got a fear of rejection that holds us back when it comes to asking for dates and numbers. My best advice is to just get out there and do it. What’s the worst that can happen? You might get told no. So what? A few women on adultfrienedfinder will turn down even the best player out there, but you will still have a better chance than if you never asked anyone.
It’s not rocket science. If you want more numbers, start asking for more numbers! Most women like to be asked for their phone number anyway. They see it as a compliment. So if you think of it that way, you are increasing your chances of a date as well as making someone’s day. Sounds great, huh?
In addition, here are a few more tips that you may find useful.
As you are writing down her number, ask her to repeat it. Not only will this keep you from writing down the wrong number, but it will clue you in if she is giving you the wrong number. For instance, if she stumbles or gives you a different number than the first one, you know she is giving you a phony number, and you can simply not bother to call.
When you’re talking to her, make eye contact, smile, and act interested. This will prove to her that you are indeed interested in pursuing a relationship and that you want to take things a step further.
Remember to keep the eye contact subtle. If you leer at her, she will get frightened. Also, try and be genuine. As I have said before, women respond well to genuine men.
Keep alert to her body language. If you really pay attention, you can tell if she’s interested or if she’s waiting for an opportunity to get away from you. If she keeps looking at her watch or looks at her friends with a bored look on her face, it’s pretty likely that she’s simply not interested. If that’s the case, simply move on and look for someone else. There are plenty of other women out there that are more deserving of your attention.
Getting numbers and more dates isn’t that hard if you have the right attitude. It’s mostly a case of having the courage to approach a woman. If you can do that, you are half way there. It just takes patience and a little planning.
You should use the times that women turn you down as feedback to adjust your game. Remember: you can’t win if you don’t play. So keep collecting those numbers, because your dream girl is only a phone call away.
Just take your courage in your hands and ask!