Have you ever had this experience?
You were talking to a woman after you just made a
great approach, things are going great, and then
SUDDENLY she gets really angry at you?
It seemed to come out of NOWHERE, and you walk
away shaking your head trying to understand what
the hell just happened.
This is all too COMMON for guys who are just learning pickup on adultfrinendfinder. The good news is, it’s only a STAGE in the learning curve.
In a minute, I’ll tell you the secret that will
PREVENT this from happening, and you’ll find it
makes it easy to transition to rapport as well.
But first, let’s take a look at what’s going on
that causes this to happen, it’s important.
Now, if you have been paying attention, you know I
teach about how girl-attraction really works, you
need to be a COOL GUY.
Thing is, the so called ‘NATURALS’ learned how to
be a cool guy, a guy who is good with women, at a
fairly young age.
They had success with women EARLY on, and each
success gave them MORE confidence as they grew up,
till it became a ‘natural’ part of their behavior.
Stick with me, I’m going somewhere with this.
If you are not one of those men who is good with
women, then early in life you likely experienced
FAILURES with women. Each failure reinforced that
you were NOT good with women.
You got to a point where it became a part of your
internal PROGRAMMING that you were NOT a cool guy.
That these other ‘alpha’ men get the women and you
didn’t (at least not the hoties you are attracted
The key word here is that you INTERNALIZED it.
You see, our BODIES know when we make an attempt
to be cooler than we know we are.
That’s the source of the FEAR and ANXIETY you get
when you approach women.
It’s a very REAL fear. Anyone that tells you it’s
all in your mind is full of crap!
The reason that fear is there is because
historically if you tried to move above your place
in the pecking order, you would get BEAT UP or
Watch the Discovery channel next time they have a
special on the great apes, and you’ll see this in
Our bodies are programmed to PROTECT us, and if
you attempt to move OUT of your social status, to
be a cooler guy and have sex with the women
normally only the alpha guy has sex with…
You experience a very real feeling of FEAR.
This is HARD WIRED into your brain.
Now I’m not telling you this to scare you or
discourage you. In our modern society, you CAN
change your social status with no threat to your
You just have to realize why the fear is there,
and accept it as PART of the learning process.
In fact, when you feel this fear it’s a sign you
are on the RIGHT PATH to being a cooler guy. Use
this feeling as your guide as you perfect your